Archive - FrauenTimes

Chemo, Cocktails and Big Questions

A magic night. Why I’m going sober for the rest of my chemo treatments. And how much should I push myself to write–during months that could be among my…

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The prospect of financial ruin has morphed into radical freedom. Cancer and my communities have liberated me me to live more fully than I imagined…

Jul 3 •

June 2025

Diaphram spasms. Scary monsters. And how to dispel them. Hint: communion is the cure.

Jun 27 •

Day One of Chemo; Rowena Writes Another Poem

It was scary and sucky. It was sublime and sounded like laughter. It made me think I can heal by transforming cancer cells with "understanding and…

Jun 20 •

Announcing the Port of Frauenheim

A new opening. Physically and metaphorically. The ouchiness and amazement that comes from vulnerability in this cancer adventure. Plus, another poem…

Jun 13 •

With a Little Help from My Friends

Here's a link to a GoFundMe as I face cancer's costs. It’s not easy to ask for help; others are in greater need. But I welcome your support—and I’m…

Jun 11 •

Ok to Go—Part 2

The conclusion of my "Ok to Go" blog about cancer. About contesting a purely combative mindset around cancer. About the grief and gifts of the disease…

Jun 8

May 2025

Happy Birthday to My Late Dad

I wish I had my dad with me as I face cancer. But in important ways, he's still here.

May 29 •

Cancer Comes, and There Go the Blueberries

Welcome “Mucinous Adenocarcinoma.” And as cancer arrives, "There Go the Blueberries," a poem by my lady that is surreal and almost unbearably sweet.

May 22 •

April 2025

Can cancer be stranger than science fiction? Can we guys get over our "toughness" and ask for help when it counts?

Apr 27 •

Soft Belly for Hard Times?

We men can combine strength and surrender in the right amounts

Apr 11 •

March 2025

F*** the Tough Guy Show

Help pick my book cover design! Trump and Musk's cop out as leaders. Video on "5Cs" for a healthier masculinity.

Mar 11 •

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